lolllll i am so tired of this bullshit. this one lady whose entire fucking family pretty much works at 2 local dollar generals called the assistant manager and told them that they couldn't hire my bf because of him being my bf. i hope her family gets laid off.
in any case this is impetus for me to change jobs. i’ve needed a little push to get me out of my comfort zone and here it is.
“Glamour originally was a magical-occult spell cast on somebody to make them believe that something or somebody was attractive. In the late 19th century terminology a non magical item used to help create a more attractive appearance gradually became ‘a glamour’. […] For glamour to be successful nearly always requires sprezzatura - an appearance of effortlessness, and to appear distant - transcending the everyday, to be slightly mysterious and somewhat idealised, but not to the extent it is no longer possible to identify with the person. Glamorous things are neither opaque, hiding all, nor transparent showing everything, but translucent, favourably showing things.”—Glamour (via blaaargh)
Wow, I spent 40 minutes at Burger King talking to a former coworker.
I got to know a lot of shit about the drama that’s going on and I got amazing fucking advice: ignore all the crap that the current assistant managers/MoDs say as they’re trying to wrangle for authority before the new manager comes in and just continue doing what I do because all I can do is show the new manager that I’m willing to be there, do my best and legitimately try to take care of the customer.
I was getting shit for not being able to do totes as fast as this one girl who only ever works mornings and who makes customers wait forfuckingever and apparently everyone but the one Lead Associate that I genuinely like all talk shit about how slow I am and how I don’t do shit. Too bad the customers fucking love how I always act happy to be at work. Too bad they comment over and over on how my damn smile brightens their day. Too bad I actually feel bad for making people who are in a hurry wait. Oh wait, the customers actually tell me I have a much nicer attitude than anyone else in the fucking place? JESUS, I must be such a sucky employee, huh?
It’s like, I’ll be the first to fucking admit I am doing my best to deal with my ADHD. It’s hard as fucking HELL for me to focus on getting shit out on the floor while running back and forth to run the register. If I am not good enough, not bringing enough of SOMETHING to the damn company, let me go because my best is seriously what I try to bring.
Also I continue to learn that I trust too damn easy. I offhandedly mentioned making lists as a way to deal with my ADHD and staying on track to the new lead associate/MoD lady and apparently, she’s a real shit talker to, despite being the newest fucking person in this place and not being from around here even. If I ever get wind of that shit being brought up and people talking crap about it because of me mentioning it to her, I will go off on her. I also will if she DARES to get even a little of the attitude that she got with my excoworker.
I just… I just come to work to make customers happy and to earn my lil eight bucks an hour. I just don’t have TIME for backstabbing drama. That’s why I have never really ever bothered to get buddy buddy with people at work. I’m there to work not shoot the shit, though every single damn convo I’ve had with the excoworker guy has been the most invaluable shit I have ever needed to hear.
All I can do is to continue being eager to come into work and to do my best and if I get let go when the new manager comes in and decides to start with a fresh slate (like I’m told our DM is wanting to have happen) then I’m lucky enough to be young and eager enough to set stakes out elsewhere. I’m not a 40/50/60 year old stuck only knowing how to do this one sort of retail job and I’m not a 20/30 year old raisin’ kids in this stupid small town. Maybe that’s why I’m not into playing games, the whole “not having major stakes” here, but I’ll tell you what, I should’ve applied for that other position I was wanting to back in the day.
“Long hair represents femininity and vulnerability and sex. It’s princesses and mermaids and porn stars. Short hair, on the other hand, says, “If you think I’m gorgeous, great, but this isn’t about you, pal.” Whoooo, scary! In an ABC interview when she was 15, Miley Cyrus showed off a photo of iconic British model Twiggy, all big eyes and choppy blond hair, and said, “One day I’m going to cut my hair like that. I know I am. I will.” So she did. But in a culture where a female doing something just for herself – not her fiancé, not her family, not her fans – is seen as transgressive, that’s enough to call her masculine and shocking and unstable. And that’s not just sad, that’s totally crazy.”—Mary Elizabeth Williams, in her Salon piece, ‘Miley Cyrus Haircut Shocker: Short hair isn’t a cry for help’ (via ceedling)
As I’ve often heard it said, it’s interesting how people who did the actual work of building the economic foundation for the world’s wealthiest nation are condemned as lazy, while people drinking mint juleps and twirling parasols on a porch are praised for their industrious Protestant work ethic.
Raja:I absolutely give all the credit to Ru for bringing drag back into our dialogue. Twenty years ago, the only drag queens we knew about were RuPaul and Sheneneh on Martin. Then there was this lull in the early 2000s where all the gay men wanted to be Abercrombie zombies. No one wanted to be the sissy. It was disgusting to be a sissy. I remember going through the 2000s thinking, “Where are the fucking sissies? Where are they at?” I spent most of my young adulthood embracing this idea and all the sudden they were gone. And in season one, Ru brought it all back. Queens have been around, but Ru got people to talk about them in their homes again.
Latrice Royale:RuPaul has really changed my life. I really feel that. I’ll never be the same. I felt like it was my last opportunity to let RuPaul and the world know how I felt about the situation, and so I said, “Can I say a few words?” And she granted me permission, so I had to pour my heart out to her and let her now how appreciative I was of what she’s done for the world of drag.
Chad Michaels:Seeing Ru in action is truly a master class and he has earned every last bit of his dynasty. RuPaul is creating a legacy that we should all admire and emulate.
Willam:Being able to make RuPaul laugh is like being touched by the hand of God. Any opportunity to be in his presence is a gift.
Shangela:Ru is like a mother to all of us, but a mother that works nights who you don’t get to see that often… but nonetheless a role model, and I want to be like her.
Sharon Needles:Everyone has wasted that crown. What do they do? Photo shoots? Lipsyncing to a fucking Rihanna song? This crown has given me the financial ability and confidence to make my world known. I’m bigger than fucking RuPaul -- I have no qualms saying that.
Most people who post rants about welfare don’t really know what the hell they’re talking about. Like there is some big “welfare office” where people can just sign up and get free food, housing, money, etc. and just “live off the government.” No, just no.
And if you want to get really specific “welfare” same as “food stamps” haven’t existed since the 90s because it had such a negative connotation among middle & upperclass whites that they made many sweeping changes (including the names) to appease people whose lives aren’t even affected by these programs/agencies.
When you talk about cutting “welfare” or being against it do you even really know what specific services you think you are opposed to? Is it child care vouchers so low-income parents can go to work? Is it subsidized (usually substandard) housing that ensures that every homeless shelter & park bench isn’t filled to the max? Is it TANF that overwhelming helps single mothers & children with monthly bills, as well as helps to ensure child support is being payed? Or is it SNAP or WIC which have been shown time and time again to primarily feed children?
“Learn to listen. This is especially difficult for members of dominant groups. If someone confronts you with your own behavior that supports privilege, step off the path of least resistance that encourages you to defend and deny. Don’t tell them they’re too sensitive or need a better sense of humor, and don’t try to explain away what you did as something else than what they’re telling you it was. Don’t say you didn’t mean it or that you were only kidding. Don’t tell them what a champion of justice you are or how hurt you feel because of what they’re telling you. Don’t make jokes or try to be cute or charming, since only privilege can lead someone to believe these are acceptable responses to something as serious as privilege and oppression. Listen to what’s being said. Take it seriously. Assume for the time being that it’s true, because given the power of paths of least resistance, it probably is. And then take responsibility to do something about it.”—Sociologist Allan G. Johnson from his must read book The Gender Knot. (via radicalbytes)